MY STORY
From Darkness to Purpose
How my IVF journey, with all its pain and uncertainty, led me to create a space for others walking the same path
Hello, I'm Lucy Light
If you're here, chances are you know the weight of fertility struggles, the hope, the heartbreak, the endless questions, and the feeling that no one truly understands.
I want you to know, I see you. I've been there and I created this space because I believe no one should have to walk this path alone.
The Beginning
I started my fertility journey with hope and optimism — the kind that makes you believe that if you just follow the steps, things will fall into place. But the path ahead was far tougher than I ever imagined. The countless appointments, the injections, the waiting, the hoping, and the trauma when things didn’t go as planned… it consumed every part of my life.
The hormones, the anxiety, the grief of watching friends and family grow their families while we struggled — it all became too heavy to carry. What began with excitement slowly turned into a life lived in cycles of hope and heartbreak.
The Struggles
Over time, the weight of it all led me down a dark path. I didn’t fall apart in a dramatic way — I was still functioning, still working, still showing up. But inside, I had given up on hope.
After work we’d go to the pub, or open a few bottles at home, and that became most nights. Drinking became the only way I knew to numb the grief, the fear, and the overwhelming sense of failure that wrapped itself around everything. I withdrew from friends, from family, from life itself. I was grieving a future I knew, deep down, wasn’t going to happen.
Then came the moment everything shifted. I had to stop IVF because of endometriosis, and with that came a truth I could no longer outrun: the path I was on wasn’t leading anywhere good. I needed to lift myself out of the depression I’d been sinking into, and the first step was giving up drinking and sorting myself out from the inside.
The Turning Point
In the middle of that messy, half‑way stage, I created a small Zoom group called Journeying Together. I needed somewhere to speak honestly, to share what I was feeling, and to hear from others who had walked similar paths. It was the first time I truly understood I wasn’t alone.
And then came the becoming.
I realised that while I couldn’t change my journey, I could use it. I could turn it into something that might help someone else feel less lost. That’s when I wrote my book, A Road To Somewhere — a butterfly book full of honesty, humour, photos, and the raw truth of what it means to rebuild yourself when life doesn’t go to plan.
Where I Am Now
Ten years on, my life looks very different. I’m steadier. Softer. Clearer. I’ve built a life I’m proud of — a loving relationship where we choose what makes us happy, older and wiser sausage dogs who have taught me more about love and patience than any self‑help book ever could, and a business — Long Dog Hotel — that I created from scratch, caring for dachshunds with the gentleness I once struggled to give myself.
I’ve navigated my mum’s Alzheimer’s dementia, rebuilt my social world, and found a community of people who understand what it means to start again. I’ve lost friendships along the way, but it made space for the right people — the ones who see me, who get me, who don’t tiptoe around my story.
I’ve joined a club that supports people who’ve given up drinking, and I’ve met some of the kindest souls there. People who understand rebuilding from the inside out. These days, I live by something Mel Robbins calls The Let Them Theory:
Let people be who they are.
Let life unfold how it needs to.
Let go of what isn’t yours to carry.
Let yourself choose peace.
The Becoming
Through all of this, a desire grew in me — to create the space I wished I had during my own struggles. A place where women and couples facing fertility challenges don’t have to feel alone. A place of gentleness, honesty, humour, and hope.
That’s how Light the Way Today was born and is my way of offering that same gentleness to others.
Not advice.
Not a fix.
Just a warm, steady place to land.
A reminder that you’re allowed to feel everything, to take your time, to rebuild, to laugh, to rest, to become.
I don’t have all the answers. I’m not here to tell you how to live your life.
I’m here to walk beside you — with honesty, humour, and a light held just far enough ahead to help you see your next step.
Remember, it's going to be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end!
If you’d like to read more of my reflections, my book is available under the Resources page.
"Your Plan B doesn't have to be a consolation prize. It can be the beginning of a different kind of beautiful."
From: Lucy Light
What I Understand
Because I’ve lived it, I understand — the weight, the waiting, and the quiet courage it takes to keep going.
The grief of a negative tests after all that hope
The isolation of feeling like no one understands
The complexity of conditions such as endometrosis, PCOS or cancer
The weight of wondering about Plan B when Plan A doesn't work
The struggles with unhealthy coping mechanisms
The courage it takes to ask for help
The financial burden that adds stress to an already difficult situation
You're not alone in any of this......
